Is It Hard To Say Goodbye To Yesterday?

​I recently discovered that I lost a good friend in my circle. 
     For years, this close friend and I did many things together.  We produced events through our companies for several clients.  I spent numerous holidays with her and her family. She would pray for me and my various family matters. She was even the person who was there for me when I had to make the hard decision to walk away from a crumbled marriage. 
I thought we were going to be friends for a lifetime…
      A few years back, while hanging with her at her beautiful home, I realized some things about myself that I had to realign.  You see this friend of mine has a status quo that is not the same as mine.  She has a husband that provides a home, vacations, maintenance on vehicles, groceries, and whatever else she needs in her life.  She has the CHOICE to work or not and by golly she deserves all of that and more.  But I found myself being swallowed up in her world mentally thinking that I had the same benefits available to me.  This friend of mine was closer to retirement and established; while I was just getting started in my grind and needed to stay hungry.  I was losing my own grind and settling on someone else’s laurels that had nothing to do with me.
        I had to pull away from that friendship so that I could refocus on my business grind.  The problem is that I didn’t know my absence from our friendship would equate to years apart.
​       In my absence from her, I was able to focus and achieve more in my personal and business goals.  My reality is if I don’t wake up each day with my own vision of success in mind to achieve what I desire, then no one else is just going to give me what they have.  Unfortunately, it just doesn’t work like that for most.  Being an entrepreneur is not a daily grind, it is a MOMENT BY MOMENT GRIND! Every penny matters.  Every decision matters.  Every relationship matters.  Every action matters.  Time waits for no one!
        I didn’t know my distance from this friend would be forever.  God knows that was never my intention or desire.  I recently tried calling her a few times and she has not returned the calls or text message. With all things I go through in life, I always work to find the lesson in it. It is like they say, some things are for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.  Surprisingly to me, I do have peace with this and so it isn’t hard for me to say goodbye. 

In closing, these are the lessons I take away from this friendship and decided to use in business:
1.     Always be willing to self-evaluate and not to lose focus of your ultimate goals.
2.     Don’t dwell on the past too long.  Learn from it and move on.
3.     Allow yourself to evolve as much as necessary and set your own standards for excellence.
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What lessons have you learned from friendships?

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